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Therapy for Women Who Work Hard to Please Everyone but Themselves

Today is World Narcissistic Abuse Awareness Day (WNAAD) But not everyone who hurts you is a “narcissist.” And, also, plenty of people are out here behaving like one. Intentional language matters. “Narcissist” has become internet shorthand for selfish, controlling, emotionally immature, manipulative, or just deeply allergic to accountability. But Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a clinical diagnosis. A caption cannot diagnose your ex. A TikTok cannot diagnose your parent. A group chat with screenshots for evidence cannot diagnose anyone either. That said, you do not need a diagnosis to recognize harm. You can notice patterns like: gaslighting blame-shifting emotional withholding boundary violations control punishment after honesty apologies without repair Instead of asking only, “Are they a narcissist?” try asking: Do I feel safe being honest here? Are my boundaries respected? Do I feel more like myself, or less like myself, in this relationship? Am I allowed to have needs without punishment? Sometimes the label is less important than the pattern. And the pattern may already be telling you something. Read the full blog post on my website: Not Everyone Is a “Narcissist.” Save this for later or share it with someone who might need the language. Educational only. Not therapy or medical advice. #narcissisticabuse #emotionalabuse #gaslighting #traumabonds #boundaries #peoplepleaser #PeoplePleasing #attachmentwounds #selftrust #therapyresources #TherapyResources #mentalhealthawareness #attachmentwounds #narcissisticabuse #emotionalabuse #gaslighting #gaslighting #traumabonds #boundaries #traumabonds #PeoplePleasing #peoplepleasing #peoplepleaser #selftrust #therapyresource #TherapyResources #therapyresources #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthawareness

Not occasionally. Not when things get overwhelming. Routinely. We all put things ahead of ourselves when adulting rightfully requires it. That’s a sign of maturity, an example of prioritizing. But what do you put ahead of yourself just because you figure that you can wait? The question is from my recently published reflection journal, You Have Nothing to Prove, which is available on #amazon. LINK IN BIO #peoplepleaser #peoplepleasing #selfcare #journal

I wrote a reflection journal. It's called You Have Nothing to Prove, and here's a peek inside. It's for women who are competent, responsible, and TIRED from doing too much (for others while doing too little for themselves). It's not motivational. It's not preachy. It's meant to offer a calmly structured place for (re)considering some things. If that sounds like something you, a client, or someone you love might need, it's available on Amazon now. LINK IN BIO

As if it’s not enough our kids are miseducated about the fourth Thursday of November, these church “leaders” used it to miseducate them about their thoughts and feelings— with the parents in their amen corner. You can’t possibly know what (or who) to be thankful for— you’re just a child, and a child stays in a child’s place, which means they don’t say truths aloud if those truths upset the adults around them. This is how people-pleasing and disregard for self are nurtured into the relational habits they become. Some people will call it good, righteous, old-school parenting, but let’s go on and call it what it is— sanctioned ABUSE. #spiritualabuse #thanksgiving #emotionalabuse #psychologicalabuse #gaslighting #churchhurt #emotionalintelligence #dallas #texas #texastherapist #therapyforblackgirls #therapistsofinstagram Video credit: https://youtube.com/@realitycheckcashed?si=HbCbFk3MOEpJZfnD

Dr. Gabor Maté says that authenticity is essential. How do we become authentic? How do we remain authentic? How authentic are you currently being? In his book, The Myth of Normal, Dr. Maté offers an exercise from his Compassionate Inquiry method and suggests that we sit with it weekly. Ask yourself the following questions without judging yourself over the answers: 1. Where did I not say no when a no wanted to be said? 2. What was the impact on me of not saying no? 3. What were the beliefs behind my inability to say no? 4. Where did I develop those beliefs? 5. Who would I be without those beliefs– if I didn’t believe them? 6. Where am I not saying yes because I’m too busy not saying no? Note any physical or emotional problems you may have experienced (question 2). Are you afraid of being seen as selfish, losing others’ love, or letting them down (question 3)? Dr. Maté suggests reflecting on the adaptations your childhood environment may have required of you (question 4) and considering who you might become if you no longer needed them to survive (question 5). Finally, an overlooked benefit of saying NO appropriately is that it frees capacity for saying YES to our authentic desires and passions (question 6). According to Dr. Maté, saying no to what your heart and soul want is just as toxic as saying yes to what they don’t. #peoplepleasing #selfsabotage #mindfulness #traumarecovery #gabormaté #compassionateinquiry #selflove #therapistsofinstagram #therapyforblackgirls #blacktherapist #louisianatherapist #texastherapist #washingtontherapist #emotionalabuse #psychologicalabuse #emotionalmanipulation #emotionalintelligence

Only thing that’s saving them is the heart of a people-pleaser. Question is, what will save you? Answer, you’ll have to choose yourself! And I know you may not believe me because you’ve been taught otherwise, but it’s okay, and sometimes necessary, to choose yourself over others. I can help you refocus— let’s chat! Schedule a free consultation, and check out our upcoming therapeutic process group, Liberated Love, created specifically to help free you from the weight of others’ expectations! Tell me in the comments what you imagined checking off of your to-do list, and I’d love for you to circle back and let us know when it’s done! ✅ #emotionalabuse #gaslighting #manipulation #emotionalmanipulation #overwhelmed #toxicpeople #toxicrelationships #toxicmarriage #toxicrelationshipsurvivor #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticmother #narcissisticfather #narcissisticparent #narcissisticrelationship #narcissisticmarriage #narcissisticabusesurvivor #narcissisticabuserecovery #psychologicalabuse #psychotherapy #onlinetherapy #virtualtherapy #louisianatherapist #texastherapist #washingtontherapist #blacktherapist #therapistsofinstagram #blackbusinessowner BTW, those are song lyrics I edited above— wanna give credit where credit is due 🤓

Well, that was fun, but I am clearly not a rapper. 🤣🤣🤣 I am a social worker in Louisiana. There have been some shifts in our continuing education requirements, and some of us are still letting them settle in. 🗓️ The current collection period is September 1, 2024 through August 31, 2025. 🙅🏾‍♀️ There is no swing month (for those of us who were used to the July-June collection period). 💻 No more than 10 of our required 20 hours can be virtual. The in-person requirement is back. 🧐 Three hours of ethics is required every two years. No change here — just a reminder! ——— 🥰 Ongoing thanks to one of the kindest people I know for gifting me with my Super Social Worker t-shirt! #socialwork #louisianasocialworker #continuingeducation #ethics #louisianatherapist #therapistsofinstagram

People-pleasing IS too much to manage. It is NOT your responsibility, but self-management is. You’re allowed to honor your capacity; your limits; your needs, preferences, and desires. They matter just as much as the next person’s do. I’m accepting new clients in the states of Louisiana, Texas, and Washington. Click the link in my bio to schedule a free consultation! #peoplepleaser #peoplepleasing #codependency #attachment #selfsabotage #strugglelove #anxiety #depression #overwhelm #highachievingwomen #relationaltherapy #therapyforblackgirls #therapistsofinstagram #blacktherapist

What if you learned to set boundaries without feeling guilty? How much space could you create in your life? And what would you do with that space? Who might you need to tell “no”? What can you allow other people to do for themselves? What will you do for yourself? Currently accepting new clients in the states of Louisiana, Texas, and Washington — let’s talk! #boundaries #boundarysetting #highachievingwomen #peoplepleaser #peoplepleasing #momguilt #codependency #therapistsofinstagram #therapyforblackwomen #relationaltherapy

“No”. One little word. Two little letters. But it can be SO hard to say, especially when people you love are “just trying to help”. Practice saying no in ways that feel comfortable for you — without apologies and without explanations. And when you can say it like you mean it, celebrate! Yay, you!! #peoplepleaser #peoplepleasing #codependency #no #therapistsofinstagram #relationaltherapy #attachmenttrauma #highachievingwomen #therapyforblackwomen #louisianatherapist #texastherapist #washingtontherapist